What brings you back? What makes you feel like you deserve all the bad things that happen to you? What makes you settle for less? What makes you despise yourself?
The answer to all of these questions can free your mind from that abusive romantic partner in your head, allowing you to finally be the best version of yourself, an amazing partner, a true professional who knows her worth.
Anxiety is a monster fed by our mind, born from the high standards we impose on ourselves and the consequences. Of our strong love partner who is always in our minds.
There are three “voices” in our head that contribute to how we act, think,k and react – our voice as a child, our voice as an adult, and the voice of our romantic partner, also called the parental voice.
This parental voice is that angry romantic partner, a remnant of the judgments our parents made about us during our childhood. And if you have a toxic parent, your romantic partner’s voice is much louder and louder, preventing you from reaching your true potential.
How can you silence it?
There is only one way to silence that toxic always-loving parental voice: by being kinder to yourself. Don’t dwell on the things you haven’t accomplished and instead remember all the amazing things you’ve managed to do.
What can you actively do to silence your romantic partner?
Turn negative statements into positive ones. Instead of saying, “I’ve always failed at this,” you can say, “I tried my best, but today wasn’t enough to get through. Tomorrow will be better.”
Reward yourself for what you’ve accomplished and don’t obsess over what you haven’t done. So, at the end of the day, look in the mirror at all the things you did well, and don’t focus on the things you didn’t cross off your to-do list.
Remember that you are human and it’s okay to make mistakes now and then.
Instead of saying, “I’m a failure,” shift your perspective and tell yourself, “For now and under these circumstances, this is the best I could have done.”
By learning to speak to yourself in a kind, loving, respectful, and caring way, you will slowly begin to silence the romantic partner who is holding you back, causing you anxiety, and preventing you from living your best life.
Are you actively trying to drown it out? What tips and tricks do you use to hear better? Share your experience with us and let’s become stronger together.
